Neglect

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This post is not only for my followers, viewers but also for my parrots. I had to take on two full-time jobs and because of that my family life, my pets, this blog and my YouTube channel was all neglected.

I thought 6 months isn’t long, no one would miss me. I also thought I would still be able to keep up with everything. False hope! Not being realistic with the fact that there is only 24 hours in a day and if I’m working 18 of those hours when would I have time to blog, videotape, edit and still spend quality time with everyone and let’s not forget to sleep? It’s just NOT possible.

One day something happened at one of my jobs that made me realize – This is not worth it! I started this website for a reason and my purpose was not being fulfilled. My kids were never seeing me, my parrots were changing for the worse and I was miserable even though the bills were being paid. So I said screw this – I love my kids, my pets and the people who take the time to read and comment and like my posts more than I love money. Yes, we all need money and hopefully one day my blogs/websites can be my full-time income however that will never happen if I’m not posting. If I’m not being a good example of parenting parrots. So I gave in my notice and as of July 7th I thought I would be back to having time for family, friends and you guys! The ones who keep me motivated to keep writing and posting. Then I ended up taking on another job which was only 4 days a week so I thought okay, better deal but still I was unrealistic. Finally I left both jobs, went on sick leave and thought okay NOW I’ll have time. That Friday my best friend died which I discuss in this post called The Passing of an Angel and I fell into a deep depression. Eventually I threw myself into my birds, taking on all these goals and tricks and things I wanted them to learn and instead of respecting them I was overwhelming them, jumping from one learning target to another and another basically trying to teach them like 20 new tricks at once – Not possible. My poor parrots. I was in a great depression and I neglected my whole family even my current pregnancy. This was neglect at its highest degree. I was posting but only as a means to take my mind off of the death I just experienced. I was hurting and hiding it which caused me to neglect the things I loved, my mind wasn’t right. We are now in 2018, I am taking my time with things. I stopped posting on Instagram for a minute and I’ve even taking a week break from interacting with the parrots and I’m slowly making a schedule for my kids. I’m not perfect but I took this week off to give everyone a break from me and for me to get my ish together for everyone.

With all that being said, I had to make some changes :(. They were for the best but definitely hurt me in the end. I will keep you posted in all that has occurred since my disappearance and I will let you know how I plan to rectify things. There are now some issues that have arisen with me and my parrots that I have never encountered before so I’ve been doing a lot of research and reading so we’ll see how it all goes but I’m hoping that this doesn’t discourage  any one from following me and I hope to get more followers as time goes by and hopefully you can learn from my mistakes if nothing else.

Sorry for the neglect!

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Re-Homing

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So, I’m finally able to start posting again and I don’t ever want to stop. I never realized it before but I truly enjoy sharing my knowledge with other people. Now this is more of a sad post than anything else… I re-homed 2 of my parrids :(.

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Story:

I found myself in a financial bind and needed to find a way out so I started working 2 fulltime jobs :(. I did that for almost 6 months straight (hence why I couldn’t post). I only had time to sleep and shower whenever I was home. I still had 2 days off a week but those were my only 2 days to clean, spend time with the kids, catch up on sleep as I was only sleeping about 3 hours a day during the week and get errands done. So my parrids were being neglected. Literally they were in jail and only being fed pellets. Even the cleanliness of their cages were suffering. I felt guilty but what could I do? I was stuck between a rock and a hard place. My kids were suffering too: weren’t getting mommy’s home cooked meals anymore, couldn’t help my son with homework, so his grades dropped. There comes a time when a person has to choose family life over paying off bills…. I finally made that decision.

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Family First (internet pic)

6 months of being away was enough for me plus I was pregnant at the same time (this I didn’t find out until later) so you can imagine how drained I was. I finally left one job and stayed with my night job but then my night job became more stressful as the day person wasn’t doing their job and my pregnancy couldn’t handle the stress so the doctor put me on sick leave. I was sad because my financials would definitely take another hit but on a more positive note – My family could see me again.
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As I’m sure you know Lovebirds who are not interacted with daily can turn away from being hand tamed very quickly which is exactly what happened with our Peach-faced Lovebird, Boss. Now with that being said, Boss always had a bit of attitude in her anyways, hahaha. I could have definitely spent the time to re-train her but I knew what she wanted. She was really showing breeding tendencies and at this time she was sharing a cage with her best friend, Piper, our Quaker parrot but he couldn’t satisfy her needs, so I decided to rehome her into a breeding program. I always knew that I might have to do that with Boss as she was parent raised and I seen her wants long before it became completely obvious. I put an ad up on Kijiji for her and within a day found a man in Brampton who was trying to breed lovebirds. We spoke for a bit and I gave her to him. It warmed my heart to hear his feedback on her. He loved her, she was completely tame with him. He was so impressed with her that he wanted to know if I had more birds I could give him. Unfortunately not, but I was happy to know he was happy and that she would be happy. I do miss her from time to time but I know she is getting what she wanted so my heart is at ease.

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Boss doing “touch/grab” taming. I call it the hovering method.

The next parrid I had to say bye too was one of my rainbow lorikeets. I still very much miss her but again the home where she was given too had nothing but positive feedback to say about her. Lorikeets are just like Lovebirds in a sense, where if you don’t interact with them daily they can revert back very quickly and that’s exactly what happened with Marlee. Rasta was more trusting of us so it wasn’t long ’til I was able to get him back around. With Marlee now, she didn’t want anything to do with me or the kids or anything. She was giving me a hard time to even clean her cage, change her food bowls or anything. Within a few days I had several inquiries for her but one inquiry stood out more than the rest. So I gave her to that household. Marlee kept flying back to me like she didn’t want me to leave her and that broke my heart but I spoke to the female and she said Marlee is doing WONDERFUL. She was nipping when I first dropped her off but soon stopped. The family loves her and she gets a lot of out of the cage time.

Rehoming parrots is not easy when you truly care about their well-being. Piper, our Quaker was down for a while when Boss first left but since then he has come around and is very happy. I can’t remove her favorite toy out of his cage or else he will get upset so I know he hasn’t forgotten her but he has moved on from the heartbreak. Rasta, our green-naped lorikeet kept calling for his sister for a few days after she was gone but he too has come around and doesn’t call for her anymore. Marlee has only been gone for 2 week from this post being posted.

Talk about hidden blessings though because when this was all happening a female contacted me asking if I could take her 2 cockatiels named Chiko and Maro. At first I was just going to give them to a friend of mine who wanted a cockatiel but they are new to the parrot world and I think two parrots would be a lot for a new owner, so we’ve added them to our flock. They came with their cage and a new bag of food. I bought them some new toys and they are very happy joining the flock. Still not sure if I will give them to my friend however I told them to do a bit more research before I would be willing to even consider it so we’ll see.

We lost 2 parrids but we gained two more. Rehoming love ones is never easy but if you must please try and find them the best loving home possible.

Parenting Parrots